Speak, even if your voice shakes


 

Making someone feel ‘less than’ is never, ever cool.

Ever.

Theoretically, that could be the end of the blog. But it’s not. Something has got me feeling all fiery and in lieu of today being the ‘National Day of Action Against Bullying and Violence’, I feel like it’s the best time for me to post this blog.

Today, I am standing for those who have felt like shit, due to someone else’s actions, and of course, their perception of someone else’s actions. I am talking about words, exclusions, talking down of someone, creating contagiously bad energy, being nasty, the list goes on.

Without always realising (I don’t believe one would purposefully hurt another – sometimes I am left to wonder and sometimes I am naive…) our words can have a greater impact than the thought we put into producing them.

No one is higher up the ‘human’ scale than anyone else – it’s not measured by monetary possessions, job descriptions or the brand of clothing you wear.

We are all humans. Sometimes it seems like we forget this simple fact and either perch ourselves up on a pedestal, or put someone else up there. Stop that! We are all one. We are all different and we are all one.

Someone close to me was reduced to a melting, teary, mess recently. Made to feel like they were hopeless. That they weren’t doing their best and that nothing they did was enough. Pressured to do things they didn’t want to. Filled with anxiety, which is like having a gut full of tornadoes (if you haven’t felt it)… not knowing which crevice they might burst out of. Not only is the possibility of this outcome uncomfortable, it’s fucking embarrassing.

And it worries me sick. The thought of that person, or any person, going home and questioning their worth; second guessing their place on this Earth, makes me physically ill. 

We lose far too many angels, far too soon, and it’s got to change.

I have a couple of pieces of advice today…

For the tornado guts: You are enough. You are divine. You can move past this and take control of your insides. You can seperate yourself from the situation. Somehow. The time to start working on that is now. Ask for help. Start reading. Take responsibility. Fill yourself with good vibes and different people. Leave situations behind that aren’t serving you – it’s not good for your energy. You are strong, and you can do that.

For those causing the tornado guts (intentionally or not): This applies to everyone of us. Absolutely own who you are; grow up, learn to create some self awareness and don’t be hurtful in the process. Being mindful will help you attract loyalty and great vibes into your life. Having people scared of you is not a compliment. One day, someone may just have to wipe your arse. Be nice. There is a thing called Karma and whether you choose to believe it or not, you can have a huge impact on someone’s life.

Everyone, as learning, growing humans, needs to take their own responsibility for how they consume the outside world and how they let that outside world, affect their inside world. But everyone is on a different point on the ‘ability to decipher and remain aware’ scale.

Compassion and empathy have the ability to make huge changes. Start teaching yourself, teach your children young and live these values every day.

Watch your words and actions. Be aware that you can, to an extent, steer the course of someone’s downward spiral. No one should have that power, but they do. YOU do.

I am not, by any means, suggesting that you should take full responsibility for someone else’s course in this life – that’s not fair. But you do have an impact. We all do.

None of us are perfect. We CAN work on it, and we can correct situations if we are a ‘temporary arse’. This takes strength and courage – but my mind boggles at the possibility of humans being raw and authentic and giving it a shot!

Speaking up always takes courage. The bottom line is, you can’t rely on anyone else to do it for you. ‘Grown up human’ panty time.

Speak, even if your voice shakes, 

Jen xx


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